Self-Reliance Quote – by Gary Keller

Posted on May 3, 2022May 3, 2022 by brianjpombo

Thoughts on helping others by helping yourself first.

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Self Reliance quote by Gary Keller.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

Tonight is going to be a quick one for you. I just wanted to put out this quote that I saw and it was probably the most simplified way I’ve seen of explaining self-reliance.

We’ve talked a lot about self-reliance. In the past year, I’ve had people that a lot of people that I’ve worked with and around that were big into the self-reliance industry.

It’s one of those things, it’s kind of near and dear to me, and something that I like talking about because it’s one of those things that I think is, is rather common sense, but not all that common among the public that most people don’t discuss it that often not quite like they did many years ago.

So here’s the quote, tell me if you think this isn’t just brain dead simple, or even overly simple, says, “The more you work on yourself and help yourself be the best you can be, the more you can help everyone around you be the best they can be.”

And that’s Gary Keller that said that.

And I saw this quote on social media, and I grabbed it and said, I’m gonna have to talk about this sometime. I think I grabbed it today. So that’s sometimes today.

So here we go. It’s one of those ideas that is just so simple, that if you can help yourself first, then you can help other people in modern-day, I think it’s explained the best. And it’s explained like this over and over and over again.

But I think it’s it’s a good analogy. It’s when you’re on the plane. And they’re giving you the rundown that they have to give you by law every time about the fact that when oxygen falls from the ceiling, you need to put it on yourself first, and then help other people to put it on them.

Like, regardless of anything else, the idea and don’t get caught up in the idea of whether the oxygen actually matters or whether it’s there just sue the US or whatever else. I know, there are a whole lot of theories as far as that goes.

But just in general, the idea that you have to kind of be somewhat stable before you can help someone else who isn’t stable, or help someone else become more stable or help someone else get up to a certain level, in order to help other people you have to have already have been helped in a sense.

And self-reliance is the idea that if no one’s going to help you, you got to help yourself. I mean, there are always options for people to help you. But in the end, you’re always going to be dependent somewhat more on yourself than on anybody else.

In most cases, obviously, there are situations where people from the day they’re born until the day they die, they’re completely 100% dependent on other people, for them to be able to have a life or to have at least a decent life that happens. But it’s not the norm, the norm is most of us.

If we don’t take care of ourselves, ain’t no one else gonna take care of us. And it probably wouldn’t be good for us if they did. But if we take care of ourselves, and then that allows us to take care of other people, either when they’re not in the right place to be able to do it for themselves.

Or they’re in a situation, like I said, where they just can’t, they just can’t do it. And so that’s always going to happen, we always need to be able to help people. But if we can figure out how to help ourselves first, it’s really, really useful.

And this is, this is why I think it’s very common within the self-improvement genre of the self-improvement industry, I guess you could call it if you want to look at it from the business perspective. It’s very common for people to be self-reliance.

It’s not that we aren’t aware that some people can’t be self-reliant. But if we can encourage more people to be self-reliant, it allows more people to come from a place where they can help other people if they have the heart to do so.

So that’s all I got for today. It’s just kind of an interesting off-topic, but it’s a Sunday when I’m recording this. So hopefully you found it helpful. That’s all I got for today. Go check out my book, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business, get a free copy at AmazonProofBook.com And we’ll see you tomorrow.

In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.

The Opposite of Self-Reliance 😨

Posted on March 30, 2022March 30, 2022 by brianjpombo

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Is anyone truly self-reliant or a we all dependent on others, to some degree?

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The opposite of self-reliance.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

I believe we started in 2019. I started doing this show, excuse me, if I’m awful my dates just off the top of my head, I believe that was the date. That was the year.

We started talking about a lot of things, but I was coming from a perspective of…I was working with clients within the Self Reliance field. So people with products and services that allowed people to become more self-reliant.

These concepts of self-reliance kept coming up in conversation, and so forth. So I created a video that kind of had kind of took on a life of its own.

It’s called Self Reliance is Fake. And it really caused quite a stir because it was kind of an inflammatory title. It was meant to be that way.

It’s not that I very much believe in self-reliance. But the concept of self-reliance being that you are 100% completely reliant on yourself, is a fake idea. That a lot of people who have any type of aversion to the concept of self-reliance, that’s usually what they get caught up on.

I started kind of dissecting that and talking about I had my head, my youngest son on my lap, he was just a baby. And we were talking about this idea.

Well, you can go back and watch that video, I want to kind of hit on the concept, even though I don’t work exclusively within the self-reliance field, and certainly not as heavy as I was then. There is still, self-reliance runs through everything that I do in some way or fashion.

I found that there are not enough people discussing it in a productive manner. And one of the things they don’t look at is they don’t look at what’s the opposite of self-reliance. The opposite of self-reliance is much scarier than the situation if we actually trained, let’s say, we got, I don’t know 10% of the population of the world to become more self-reliant, would that be a bad thing or a good thing?

I believe it’d be a good thing. Because a self-reliant person, it doesn’t mean they’re completely, you know, contained in a bubble, and they just do their own thing, it means that they can, as best as possible survive on their own.

There they have the, it’s more of the attitude. That if it is to be it’s up to me, that I’m going to take the responsibility, not the fault of everything, but the responsibility of doing what’s necessary to feed myself to feed my family to feed, clothe shelter, and to do everything I can for my people.

First, before I go about helping everyone else or asking for anything from anybody else, that I do the best I can at what I do. That’s, that’s kind of in a very loose way, my concept of what self-reliance is, the opposite of self-reliance is dependence. Its absolute dependence on other people.

Now, we are all dependent on each other. Don’t get me wrong, interdependency is his kind of life, that there’s not really a way around it. None of us are really self-contained and really perfect in the way that we are.

We need each other. And when you study personalities, when you study coordination, when you study all these different elements, we noticed that all of us are really good at something, or we’re really good at a wide range of things, but not as good as the people that are focusing on each of those things, if that makes sense.

Naturally, we have natural inclinations toward very specific areas. But that’s not the only thing you need to live. And it’s definitely not the only thing you need to be able to thrive and become better through life, have better nutrition, have a larger business, everything else.

Anyone who’s a business owner or executive that has tried to do it on their own while at the same time needing to hire certain things out knows that you can’t do it all on your own.

You could do a certain amount, you could probably make it to the small millions on your own with it as your own solopreneur business. But to get past that point, you have to become more dependent on other people, but not dependent in the sense that you need them.

For the basics in life, you need them, just like they need you to go the next step together, we can do more than any of us alone. But if each of us has the attitude of self-reliance, it makes it a lot easier if you go the opposite way.

You say we’re completely dependent on each other. Nobody is toeing the line, nobody is taking responsibility. And there’s a race to the bottom when you have that concept of dependency.

You can see it throughout culture, especially if you’re living in the United States during this time period, you can see it’s kind of somewhat built into the culture, especially with younger people.

I think on some hands, it was purposeful by some people, but on a lot of people they don’t realize why their children have this attitude. A lot of it comes from the comfort level that we’ve lived in because of living off of the past, which was more self-reliant, which built up this nice, comfortable, wonderful lifestyle.

We can go off on a tangent on that but in reality, we do have a problem with wanting to be dependent, is that there’s something built into humans. I think, where we really do want to be dependent, it’d be nice if we can just rest and just have someone else take care of me.

There are certain people, who don’t have a choice. You know, if you’re a certain if you’re past a certain age, and your body’s giving out and everything else, you don’t have a choice, you’re dependent on other people.

If you have mental issues or any type of handicap or anything of that sort. You’re dependent on other people, if you’re a child, if you’re a baby if you’re going to be dependent to one extent or another.

You can’t do anything about that but for those of us who can do something about it, we really should.

We got to start with ourselves, take care of ourselves, do what we got to do to be able to build ourselves up and make the world a better place.

But it starts here.

And then helping others helping those people who don’t have a choice and be independent. In that process, it’s not about self-reliance versus absolute dependence. It’s more about that attitude.

If you’ve got the right attitude, if you can find that attitude, I’m going to do everything I can to make the world a better place and I’m not going to ask for anything, and I’m not going to play the victim, for anybody.

If you have that attitude, I think you’ll see that life just gets better.

If you can help promote that attitude with other people. If you already have that attitude, don’t push it on other people, but at the same end, try and bring it out of them because I think we all have the capability of it.

I’d love to find out if this is making sense to you or if or if it just sounds like a bunch of gobbledygook.

So leave me a message wherever you’re watching this, leave me a comment, you can always go to BrianJPombo.com and leave a comment directly under the post that this is coming from.

We have a video version of this. If you’re watching, that’s where you’re watching. We also have an audio version that you can get via podcast or the website.

Also you can check out my book. I always talk about, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business. You can get a free copy at AmazonProofBook.com talking all about strategies to help make your competition proof for you and your business.

We’ll be back tomorrow. In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.

Boost Your YouTube: Tip 5

Posted on March 20, 2021March 20, 2021 by brianjpombo

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Look back at Brian’s video – Self Reliance Is Fake

Watch here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ouPq58XOhtw

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Boost Your YouTube, Tip Number 5.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

When I’m holding up here is currently my most watched video on YouTube. It is nearly two years old. It was back when I was in the orange office, you can if you go far back enough and watch the old, old episodes, you can see those taken in the orange office, I’m sitting there with my son, Lucas.

You can go back and watch this video, the name of the video is, Self Reliance Is Fake.

It’s not a great video. But there’s something about it, what gets people to click on videos. And there’s a there’s a few things here that I can point to. This is an odd one, I’m going to go through all the details of why I think this one has gotten through.

It’s probably not what you think, first off, the title I have on this self reliance is fake. Now, it’s not that I’m tying, that I’m tearing down the concept of self reliance.

But I’m being very specific, I’m using a very provocative title to pull people in so that I can go about up about talking about self reliance and how there’s really a great misconception over what the term means.

That’s what I’m really talking about there. But that saying that something is fake, especially two years ago, that was really still a very hot term, really made popular by the president of that time.

It was one of those things that everyone was tossing around, is this fake? Is this real is this fake, fake news, all that type of thing. And so I played along with that, and calling in calling self reliance is fake. It’s also self reliance is one of those things, especially in America, in the United States of America, where we don’t oftentimes tear down that term, it’s it has very positive connotations within America in general, and I wasn’t tearing it down.

But at the same end, I was playing with the emotions there with that title, you can have a provocative title, something that is counterintuitive, or something that says well, I wonder why he or she thinks that.

If you can have a title like that, a headline like that, it’ll pull people in, whether it be a video on YouTube, or an article somewhere or a blog post, it’s the same thing that headline can truly pull people in.

Now this cover image, there’s nothing special about it, there’s nothing written on it. The one thing that’s a little different from my other videos is I’ve got my little kid sitting there. And he’s a little he’s a little under the age of one there actually, he’s he’s hardly more than a few months old there.

He was a little guy, even for his age use very much what we used to call peanut. He’s just a little tiny guy. And he’s sitting there making noises as I’m as I’m talking. And I’m comparing the situation with being a parent versus being a child in how self reliance plays into that. So that’s kind of why he was there.

It was also one of the situations where I was just trying something different in my videos by having one of my kids with me, which I’ve have numerous videos where kids and with me, but for some reason, this one hit a chord. The interesting thing about this one, it did not take off right away.

This took probably a good year before I started seeing play off of it, and then all of a sudden started getting a few comments. Then also a whole bunch of thumbs down.

I got a lot more thumbs up, but most of my posts, but got thumbs down out of nowhere, this thing’s got 36 thumbs down on it, which is pretty high for my videos, my videos tend to not be too controversial. And I tend to not pull in people that would put a thumbs down on my videos even if they thought so.

I think here’s, here’s what I believe and I have not been able to prove this. I think this video was picked up by somebody, possibly in a Facebook, private Facebook group, or a Reddit thread, thread somewhere.

It ended up somewhere that I’ve haven’t been able to find, but it ended up somewhere and everyone started making noise about it, which caused a whole lot of people to go and look at it, which caused a whole lot of people to have negative input on it.

I have a few somewhat negative comments on it about two that could be possibly negative. Although I tried when I tried conversating back and forth. I really wasn’t able to get much back one of them was just kind of cryptic, I’m not quite sure what he’s trying to say. And you could check out the video too, if you’re interested.

But it’s one of those things where I still don’t know why it’s gained popularity, but I think it had enough up that the conjecture is based on my understanding of YouTube’s algorithm, I think it got enough attention over a short period of time, me that really, after a year, it was already out that YouTube said, this is something that people want to see, because they’re interacting with it, even if they’re interacting negatively with it, they are still interacting with that.

I think they’ve started to put it in into certain searches and put it out there to where people are seeing it. Now, they don’t do that with all videos. If you think you put a video out on YouTube, you think it’s automatically going to start popping up in searches, and show up and all the normal places where you see YouTube’s just spontaneously pop up where the videos pop up, you’re mistaken, it’s probably not going to happen.

It takes a lot to break through that they’ve got algorithms that decide what comes in what goes based on popularity based on engagement.

I think this one was engaged enough that it’s pop through to another level in the algorithm to where YouTube is feeding it to people, because it has been constantly going up on a monthly basis for a while now.

Just kind of interesting. And you’re going to have that when it comes to YouTube, the one thing I found is it’s extremely unpredictable, there are certain things you can predict, there’s certain things you can, you can maneuver to get more attention. But this is one of those things that I have not tried to do with this show.

This is a show that’s being put out in multiple formats. YouTube has only one of them is being put out via podcast, I just found out recently, we were missing off of a couple of major podcast players.

So we made sure we put ourselves back out there. But we’ve got the audio going over podcast Hi, everybody that’s listening to this. We all have video going out over YouTube, but also a number of other video resources, platforms.

So this is how it is for me, these are just accidental things that I fell upon within the platform of YouTube. If If I were really you want to get a really good tip, I’ll tell you, the people who I’ve seen do the best on YouTube.

I’ve worked with people that, that that work in YouTube and have done well with YouTube. And I have clients that get 1000s and 1000s, 1000s of more views than I ever got on my best video.

There’s one thing they do across the board that is extremely useful. And that is teaming up with other people who are on YouTube. Even if those people have a small audience, if you can get into their audience and let them know that you also have a YouTube and they’re the type of audience that would jump over to yours, especially if they’re ideal if they’re your ideal audience.

Or if you can interview people who have other YouTube channels, they are going to come look at it on yours and they may stay and subscribe Do you have a chance of that happening, then watching one of your videos has the chance of more of your videos popping up over and over and over again.

Just getting out there and putting your videos across other places, especially if you’re focused on really growing a YouTube channel, then you got to take that YouTube embed, you take that link, and you post it over every social media.

It’s not what I do. In most cases, I am uploading it directly to each social media, Facebook, LinkedIn, we’re doing it natively on each of those platforms. And we’re not necessarily using YouTube.

We are I believe we’re sending YouTube out on Twitter and a couple other places. But for the most part, we keep everything specific to the platform. And so that’s one of the reasons and I haven’t my goal hasn’t been to grow YouTube.

So I haven’t grown, you can grow it. There’s a lot of pros out there. Just keep looking out there for other stuff. And I got a million more tips on how you can grow YouTube. But you don’t want to listen to it from a person that hasn’t done it to the extent that you want to go if you really want to get good at growing YouTube, find out some from some of the experts out there.

I could tell you more than the psychology how people work to where it would work either on YouTube or any other platform. If you’re out to get eyeballs and how to stand out in general.

Then I’m going to suggest to you my book, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business. You get a free copy over at AmazonProofBook.com Hey, we’ll be back here tomorrow night. In the meantime, you get out there and let the magic happen.

Reaching Out To Customers

Posted on March 18, 2020March 23, 2021 by brianjpombo

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Brian shares an experience he got from a company after he made a purchase for the Z1 Kids Tablet, to make sure he was happy with the purchase and to ask for a product review on Amazon.

How to Win Any Argument

Posted on March 17, 2020 by brianjpombo

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Brian gives us some thoughts on how to handle arguments while doing a book review on Dale Carnegie’s classic, How To Win Friends and Influence People.