The Opposite of Self-Reliance 😨

Is anyone truly self-reliant or a we all dependent on others, to some degree?

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The opposite of self-reliance.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

I believe we started in 2019. I started doing this show, excuse me, if I’m awful my dates just off the top of my head, I believe that was the date. That was the year.

We started talking about a lot of things, but I was coming from a perspective of…I was working with clients within the Self Reliance field. So people with products and services that allowed people to become more self-reliant.

These concepts of self-reliance kept coming up in conversation, and so forth. So I created a video that kind of had kind of took on a life of its own.

It’s called Self Reliance is Fake. And it really caused quite a stir because it was kind of an inflammatory title. It was meant to be that way.

It’s not that I very much believe in self-reliance. But the concept of self-reliance being that you are 100% completely reliant on yourself, is a fake idea. That a lot of people who have any type of aversion to the concept of self-reliance, that’s usually what they get caught up on.

I started kind of dissecting that and talking about I had my head, my youngest son on my lap, he was just a baby. And we were talking about this idea.

Well, you can go back and watch that video, I want to kind of hit on the concept, even though I don’t work exclusively within the self-reliance field, and certainly not as heavy as I was then. There is still, self-reliance runs through everything that I do in some way or fashion.

I found that there are not enough people discussing it in a productive manner. And one of the things they don’t look at is they don’t look at what’s the opposite of self-reliance. The opposite of self-reliance is much scarier than the situation if we actually trained, let’s say, we got, I don’t know 10% of the population of the world to become more self-reliant, would that be a bad thing or a good thing?

I believe it’d be a good thing. Because a self-reliant person, it doesn’t mean they’re completely, you know, contained in a bubble, and they just do their own thing, it means that they can, as best as possible survive on their own.

There they have the, it’s more of the attitude. That if it is to be it’s up to me, that I’m going to take the responsibility, not the fault of everything, but the responsibility of doing what’s necessary to feed myself to feed my family to feed, clothe shelter, and to do everything I can for my people.

First, before I go about helping everyone else or asking for anything from anybody else, that I do the best I can at what I do. That’s, that’s kind of in a very loose way, my concept of what self-reliance is, the opposite of self-reliance is dependence. Its absolute dependence on other people.

Now, we are all dependent on each other. Don’t get me wrong, interdependency is his kind of life, that there’s not really a way around it. None of us are really self-contained and really perfect in the way that we are.

We need each other. And when you study personalities, when you study coordination, when you study all these different elements, we noticed that all of us are really good at something, or we’re really good at a wide range of things, but not as good as the people that are focusing on each of those things, if that makes sense.

Naturally, we have natural inclinations toward very specific areas. But that’s not the only thing you need to live. And it’s definitely not the only thing you need to be able to thrive and become better through life, have better nutrition, have a larger business, everything else.

Anyone who’s a business owner or executive that has tried to do it on their own while at the same time needing to hire certain things out knows that you can’t do it all on your own.

You could do a certain amount, you could probably make it to the small millions on your own with it as your own solopreneur business. But to get past that point, you have to become more dependent on other people, but not dependent in the sense that you need them.

For the basics in life, you need them, just like they need you to go the next step together, we can do more than any of us alone. But if each of us has the attitude of self-reliance, it makes it a lot easier if you go the opposite way.

You say we’re completely dependent on each other. Nobody is toeing the line, nobody is taking responsibility. And there’s a race to the bottom when you have that concept of dependency.

You can see it throughout culture, especially if you’re living in the United States during this time period, you can see it’s kind of somewhat built into the culture, especially with younger people.

I think on some hands, it was purposeful by some people, but on a lot of people they don’t realize why their children have this attitude. A lot of it comes from the comfort level that we’ve lived in because of living off of the past, which was more self-reliant, which built up this nice, comfortable, wonderful lifestyle.

We can go off on a tangent on that but in reality, we do have a problem with wanting to be dependent, is that there’s something built into humans. I think, where we really do want to be dependent, it’d be nice if we can just rest and just have someone else take care of me.

There are certain people, who don’t have a choice. You know, if you’re a certain if you’re past a certain age, and your body’s giving out and everything else, you don’t have a choice, you’re dependent on other people.

If you have mental issues or any type of handicap or anything of that sort. You’re dependent on other people, if you’re a child, if you’re a baby if you’re going to be dependent to one extent or another.

You can’t do anything about that but for those of us who can do something about it, we really should.

We got to start with ourselves, take care of ourselves, do what we got to do to be able to build ourselves up and make the world a better place.

But it starts here.

And then helping others helping those people who don’t have a choice and be independent. In that process, it’s not about self-reliance versus absolute dependence. It’s more about that attitude.

If you’ve got the right attitude, if you can find that attitude, I’m going to do everything I can to make the world a better place and I’m not going to ask for anything, and I’m not going to play the victim, for anybody.

If you have that attitude, I think you’ll see that life just gets better.

If you can help promote that attitude with other people. If you already have that attitude, don’t push it on other people, but at the same end, try and bring it out of them because I think we all have the capability of it.

I’d love to find out if this is making sense to you or if or if it just sounds like a bunch of gobbledygook.

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We’ll be back tomorrow. In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.