Getting To Know You, by Chris Carey 📖

Posted on May 7, 2021May 7, 2021 by brianjpombo

The 3rd and final installment of our personality profile series, Brian talks about what might be the best book ever put together on this topic by the late Chris Carey.

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Getting to Know You, by Chris Carey.

Hi, I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

Today I’m going to be reviewing, Getting to Know You, by Chris Carey. The late, great Chris Carey, he put out quite a few books, this was my favorite of his.

This one came out in 2002. This is still, I believe, my original copy.

I’m surprised it doesn’t have more highlights and so forth. And I think I know why though, it’s because I really do see a worn out it is, I enjoyed this book so much that I’d really didn’t know where to start with the highlighting.

It was probably during a period of time where I wasn’t doing that much in books when it came to that. But this book, just front to back, I thought was one of the best books I’ve read on the DISC personality model.

Now, we talked for the last two episodes. So if you’re wanting to know more about the four part personality concept, the theory behind personality, you want to check out the other two videos that I put out, one on, Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer, and one positive personality profiles by Dr. Robert Rome, both really good books.

And I want to go back to Robert Rohm for a second because it will allow me to explain Chris’s book a little better. This one is positive personality profiles that he goes through.

I think he has given the easiest way for me to ever describe personalities to people, the first step is to really take it and say, you know, are you outgoing or are you reserved?

That’s the first step, are you more outgoing or more reserved?

Now, there’s a lot of us that are kind of in between, depending on where we’re around and everything else. But in your what you will consider your most natural state are in the part the when you’re being the most you are you more outgoing?

Are you more reserved?

Okay, that’s the first step.

Then you ask yourself, are you more task or are you more people oriented?

That’s the other one.

And based on how you answer that, so for example, a, an outgoing, task oriented person, if that’s your main trait, you would say that your a D on the which is Florence Littauer would refer to as a cleric.

If you’re an outgoing people oriented person, you’re an I. Okay, also known as sanguine, if you’re a reserved task person, you’re a C, or a melancholy. And if you’re a reserved people person, you’re an S, or a phlegmatic.

So that is how Robert Rome describes the DISC, it’s actually my favorite way to describe it to people, if I’m talking personalities with somebody. That’s the first thing I say, and we tend to be, we tend to at least have two strong ones on that you have a major one and a second, and a secondary one. And you can probably figure out what that is, with yourself.

For me, I’m a strange one, you don’t see this very often, but I’m a DS.

So I mainly D, I’m task oriented and and outgoing. But secondarily, I’m the exact opposite, which is people oriented and reserved. So that’s just an example.

Now what Chris does, he goes through a similar thing except instead of saying outgoing or reserved. He says fast or slow, which was a different way of looking at it what you’ll find is that in most cases, people that consider themselves it’s not it’s not a synonym, you know, these are not things that are that are that are completely related to each other but you will find that most outgoing people consider themselves fast and most reserved people conserves themselves slow so it’s kind of a play on the same thing.

I prefer reserved and and outgoing but it is a quick way to be able to see it you can actually see it fast slow he bases, I don’t know if he bases his perspective of DISC on Robert Rohms work.

I know that they I’m pretty sure they knew each other. I had a feeling that they wrote a book. I guess I should have researched this before doing the video. Either way, Chris Carey, his book is so simple and easy to read everybody that I have passed this on to either had the borrow it or I’ve actually had a handful of copies that I’ve passed out to people over the years and everyone I know that has read it has said they really enjoyed it.

Once again, it’s an interesting thing within the personality community. He comes at it from a Christian perspective, from kind of that, that background, and I don’t know why it has been such a big thing within that community within, within a religious community and people of that nature.

I mean, his foreword is by John Maxwell, if you don’t know who that is, go and look it up, because it’s, it’ll tell you something about, about the perspective here, the leadership and so forth.

But just across the board, I’ve passed this along to people who had nothing to do with religion, and they got something out of it. And it is really, the quintessential book that I found on personnel is the best one I’ve read, I haven’t read them all. I’m sure there’s better books out there. This is one that’s out of print.

Chris died many years back and I always wanted to get in touch with his family.

If you know Chris Carey’s family, or you know, the people that own the rights to his materials, I would love to find out, if they’re interested in at least getting it electronically published, if not republished altogether.

Even through self publishing, if I’d love to be able to talk to them, please pass this video on to them.

And let them know that I would really love to have this book. And it’s been one that has not just changed my life, but it’s one of those books I passed on to others, it’s changed theirs. And now that it’s difficult, relatively difficult to get, I’d like the ability to be able to get it to more people.

So that’s a great book, the subtitle, if you can’t read, it says how you can solve your people puzzles, and increase success in all your personal and professional relationships.

That’s really what it’s all about.

That’s why I’m talking about personality theory is because we talk a lot here about business. And, but really, it’s the inside game.

It’s the inside game, the business owner, and the one of the main pillars of the three main pillars of BrianJPombo.com is being Relationship Reliant.

If you’re going to be Relationship Reliant, you have to get better at dealing with people.

I am not a natural people person, like I said, my main quality is D, I am more task oriented. Even though I’m outgoing, I’m task oriented, I don’t see people in the way that a natural people person sees people, I see people as a function of a task, which is a weird, a weird way to talk about it.

But it’s honest and if you don’t see the world that way, it’s really tough to bend your mind to think that way. If you do think that way. It’s tough to see it from a people perspective, even though I have a secondary people oriented trait in my side.

So these are great conversations to have, I’d love to have more conversations with you in the future, about personalities, I’d love to have Dr. Rohm, or anybody else who has concerns themselves an expert on personality theory, I’d love to have them on the show.

As we’re going to be doing more interviews, I already have to that we’re going through the editing process slow because it’s the first time we’ve done video editing for this podcast.

But we’re going through the editing process, I’m going to be putting out these other interviews, I have a lot of great stuff going on tonight.

I’m recording this on, it will probably show up for you on May 7, I’m recording and it will be May 6, which is the second year anniversary of Brian J. Pombo Live, I have had such a blast making this show for two years straight.

And hopefully we’ll be able to continue it in two years ahead and be able to grow it and bring on new dimensions like these interviews and conversations that we’re gonna start having more of, hey, one of the things that was born of this podcast was my book, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business, I talked about it in the book.

The book was designed off of nine separate episodes of this show. And it shows you how you can take one form of content and grow it into another form. If you want a copy of this, go check out AmazonProofBook.com.

And you can get your very own free digital copy of, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business otherwise you could find it wherever books are sold, especially online.

So we’ll be back tomorrow. In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.

Positive Personality Profiles, by Robert Rohm 📖

Posted on May 6, 2021May 7, 2021 by brianjpombo

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2nd night in a row talking about personality profiles of people from Robert Rohm’s classic, Positive Personality Profiles.

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Positive Personality Profiles, by Robert Rohm.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

This is the second video in a series that I’m doing on the top three books that I’ve come across dealing with the four personalities and the theory behind four personality types.

But basically a four personality quadrant, if you will.

The first one I talked about was Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer. And the only reason I mentioned that one is because it was the original book that I came in contact with, I knew a lot of people that they consider that their Bible when it came to understanding the four personalities.

This was another gentleman that that has added a whole level and is probably probably one of the leading experts out there relating to the DISC model of that referring to each personality trait as a D, I, S or C and go into the detail over what those are and what those are not.

And this is, this is one of those books that is it’s almost like a textbook.

Now Robert Rohm’s an interesting fellow, you can find out a whole lot about him just by doing a search.

He also comes at it from a from a Christian perspective, similar to Florence Littauer. So he uses a lot of analogies and references, back to the Bible, and so on, so forth.

So it is one of those things that you have to realize that going into it.

Robert Rohm is an amazing speaker, I think he is the best I’ve seen at giving live presentations, he has a basic presentation that I’ve seen him do both in person and on video a number of times, and it is one of the best.

It’s one of those that I like to show people who are just learning about the personalities, I will either show them a video or I have an audio version of the of the speech also. And he is entertaining.

He covers the whole gambit, he talks about how he came across it. In book format, this is almost more like a textbook.

I mean, he takes you from beginning to end, he covers this side of it that side of it, it’s not for me personally, it’s not the easiest read. But it is the most informative across the board and one that I go back to over and over again, when I’m looking to find out something specific about you know what personality.

We may be more interested in this or that what which which one, you know, gives off this versus that and so on so forth.

Very interesting book. Any I recommend any of Robert Rohm’s materials, he has a large, large assortment of materials, he does speech and he’s done speeches for a million and has been a consultant for a million corporations.

Definitely somebody that’s worth looking into and reading his material. And he had a way of simplifying it even more succinctly, the fourth let our dead.

So that’s why this is definitely one of my top books, when it comes to personalities. Now, if you’d, if you’d like to get a copy of one of those videos, I actually have a link for a copy.

So if I still have it at the time, you’re watching this and you’re wanting or listening to this and you’re wanting it, I’m going to flash my email address across the screen.

And if you’re listening to this, you’ll have to go to my Youtube or to one of the videos at BrianJPombo.com I should say, and find my email address.

I don’t like to say it out loud or put it out there. Because I don’t want the spam robots picking it up. But if you’d like a copy of that, send me an email with the subject line Rome, and you spell that R O H M, subject line Rohm. That’s doc for Dr. Robert Rohm.

And if you send that to me, I will send you a link. And so that’s all I’ve got for today. Tomorrow. I’m going to mention the third and possibly my most favorite book when it comes to personality theory.

So we’ll get back to that tomorrow. In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.

Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer 📖

Posted on May 5, 2021May 5, 2021 by brianjpombo

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Thoughts on personality profiles of people from Florence Littauer’s classic, Personality Plus.

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Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

I wanted to talk about this book today and how it would affect you in your business. But first I have to move by chair this is this is we record these live, we do not edit them. And my chair for the last handful of episodes keeps hitting the back.

But me with personality that does not. That gets distracted easily. I think about it every time we’re doing these videos. And then as soon as I’m done with the video, I forget about it.

Night after night, I come back and if you watch the earlier videos, you might hear a little clunking in the background because I’m hitting the bookshelf that has a a metal lunch pail on the top of it.

It makes this clanking sound, it’s a horrible thing anyway, so you didn’t need to know that, but it does.

It does have something to do with our topic tonight is personality plus, this was the first book I read on the four personality theory, which is the idea that everyone has a certain amount of all of the four quadrants of personalities. And depending on the amount of each one that you have is how your personality exudes itself in public.

As I’ve studied this through the years, I’ve come to the conclusion that Kathy Colby, I believe is correct that this is from the affective of side of the brain.

So it has to do with the side of your animal side of who you are. That is deals in emotion, it deals in communication, and so on so forth.

It’s a very specific area of the brain, that people are considered 1,2,3,4 of the four different quadrants.

These quadrants go by different names, you’ve probably heard of the colored ones where you have certain colors that represent I believe it’s green, red, blue, and yellow, I believe. And then there’s ones where they named after animals.

This particular one of the oldest one that I’m aware of, which was first developed by Hippocrates, of famous from the Hippocratic oath, one of the first major doctor minds back in ancient Greece, he noticed that people, certain people had a large amount of fluids in their system because he was one of the original ones to start documenting, taking apart cadavers.

He found that certain people had a large amount of bile or a large amount of phlegm in them, and he pointed it back to their personality, which is where you come up with these four names that Florence Littauer uses in her book.

Which are the four names of the personality extremes, which is called choleric, melancholy, sanguine, and why is my mind blanking…choleric, melancholy, sanguine, and phlegmatic.

Each one of those is based on the amount of fluids that was in a person’s system.

Now through the years different people have come up with different versions of this different actually famous philosophers have an I can’t remember them all off the top, I think Aristotle may have been one of them, that thought that there may be five personality extremes and so forth.

And so this is this has been bandied about throughout time, but it all plays to the same general concept that you probably have one major personality feature that shows up the most and probably a secondary one that is that’s most visible.

In most cases in most people. That is the situation.

Hers is a very…it’s a very, very casual look at the whole thing she she goes into it deeply because of her personality but she also it comes at it from a very unique perspective.

She also pulls in a whole lot of her Christian perspective into it.

If you’re offended by that type of thing, this book probably wouldn’t be for you. If you can look past it, whether you’re for or against it or see it the same way she does. It’s worth a read. It’s one of the is the first book I ever read on personality.

About 20 years ago is when I first ran into this there are two other books that have really influenced my look at personality, one a little more than the other but each of them bring with it a different perspective and a different look.

So that the first is those those four there those four also go by a different name that you may have heard of also which is the DISC model, the disc model. Still the exact same personalities it just handles it a little bit slightly differently the testing forward is different and everything else but worth reading.

Go check out forklift our just passed away last year. I believe she was 92 years old.

She’s she was a she was a dynamic speaker. A really interesting writer interesting perspective on personalities. So go check that out, if you want to know more of it, this all comes back to the concept that I have about being relationship reliant.

If you want to develop better relationships, whether you’re a people person or not, I’m not a naturally direct people person, I’m outgoing person, but I’m not a people oriented person.

It’s helped me a lot to be able to handle people and be able to work with them and try and see it from their perspective, by learning about personalities through the years. It’s one piece of a larger puzzle of what makes up people.

And it really is the animal side of people, it’s interesting that you could see the exact same thing, if you spent a lot of time with one certain type of animal, like dogs, is one in particular that you can really see the personality very clearly.

You can tell personality, it’s not just something that humans have. All animals have, to one extent or another.

It seems like the more inner communication that you have with animals, the more you can see their personality, and you will be able to see sanguine dogs and melancholy dogs, everything else. It’s a very, very interesting thing.

That’s why I really do believe it’s an animal. It’s the animal part of our brain that comes with the personality and you don’t really have much of a choice over it.

It’s just one of those things that you’re born with. But I’d love to hear your thoughts on personality, leave them down below and watch the next two episodes where we’ll be looking at those other two books.

That’s all I’ve got for tonight.

Hey, while I’m here, don’t forget about my book, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business. You can get your very own free copy at AmazonProofBook.com.

We’ll be back here tomorrow night. In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.