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As updates from family and friends come in from Ukraine, Brian has an important message about self control.

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Quit falling for the control illusion.

Hi I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

I’m a Business investor. And one of the things that I find myself doing a lot is discussing things with people who are already in business, or people who are executives in businesses, meaning the people who are in charge.

We get a lot of those conversations going either when I’m looking to purchase a business or find out more about it, or see if there’s some type of partnership we can do.

There’s a common issue along the way, is if you’ve had any sense of success whatsoever in business, it’s really easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you can actually control it all.

When in reality you really can’t, and you have to yet and you know that’s true, you know it’s an illusion.

This control thing is a complete illusion.

Because there’s a difference between what you’re responsible for, and what’s your fault. We’ve talked about that a lot here before is that, there may be a whole lot that’s your fault. But that is very different from what you’re responsible for, you’re responsible for the whole thing.

But that doesn’t mean you control the whole thing.

So I got a great example for you today.

I was discussing this with my wife. She was extremely concerned because as we mentioned before, she has family in Ukraine. At this time of this videotaping they’re going through all the whole situation of the Russian invasion.

And so a whole bunch of issues there and it goes way back, because this isn’t the first time this was discussed, or the first time it was thought about, you know, they’ve been talking about this for months.

Previous to that there was always the chance that it could happen because there have been other invasions that have happened within their country, obviously, if you just go a little bit, a little bit back in history, just a few years back.

So this stuff has been happening, and it’s been crazy. But there gets to be a point where you really have zero control. I’m talking about us here in America, with her family over there.

She can do her best to instruct, give advice, help them work through the emotional issues and everything else that people have when they’re going through a life-changing event.

But in the end, my wife and I don’t have very much control over the situation. We don’t have an inline to the Kremlin, we don’t have, you know, anything that you could possibly be of any help.

There’s not a lot we can do other than via the internet, discussing things with them directly.

Here’s what ended up happening, we had a getaway plan, I wouldn’t call it a vacation, we’re just going to be getting away for a couple of days in the middle of the week, which is an interesting thing that you can do.

If you don’t own your own business. By the way, it’s stuff that I highly encourage you to look into. You can watch some of my videos on that, or check out my website, but we had this plan for a while. Then this situation popped up with her family.

In the end, she had no control over it and you got to be able to recognize what you don’t have control over and be able to back off.

On one hand, she thought she should probably cancel our plans and that would have been fine. But it’s not necessary.

I do not like the idea of allowing outside forces, unless they really are something that we have control over to dictate what we do with our life.

It’s just a personal philosophy.

For me, I don’t know if you feel the same way, I’d love to hear what you think. Leave a comment wherever you’re watching this or you could go to BrianJPombo.com and leave a comment in the media section.

So this is one of those scenarios that we just realized that we don’t have control over it.

We’re going to do what we can, we still have internet access and all the same access that we would have at home while we’re on the road.

She’s kept on top of it. She’s kept on top of the news. She’s kept on top of her family and is able to still see what we can do to help provide help. That’s all you can do and you’ve got to be able to do that you have to be able to separate yourself.

When you’re in business. When you’re the person that’s in charge especially or a person that’s in charge. You have to be able to stop away and not get bogged down with the things you can’t control.

Not that you shouldn’t pay attention to them. Not that you shouldn’t watch them not that you should ignore them. You shouldn’t.

But you can’t you can’t let them control you because it’s useless. It’s not going to go anywhere.

So that’s all I’ve got for tonight.

Hey, go check out my book, 9 Ways to Amazon-Proof Your Business. You can get a free copy at AmazonProofBook.com.

We’ll be back here tomorrow night with another idea. Tomorrow we should be back back at home. So we’ll see you then you have a good one. Get out there and let the magic happen.